Wednesday 25 April 2018

Comment: 'Why I disagree with the idea that a school would discourage children from having a best friend forever'

Prince George wont be permitted to have a best friend at his new school but Dee Reynolds disagrees

George on his way to his first day of school.
George on his way to his first day of school.

Dee Reynolds

As the mother of a little girl who has been helped enormously by having a best friend in school, I disagree with the idea that a school would discourage children from having a 'best friend forever'.

My daughter has been best friends with her pal since they were three years old.

When they first met my daughter was selectively mute and wouldn't talk to anyone outside of direct family, even her grandparents for a while. 

But her friend's confidence and protectiveness drew her out of herself and helped her immensely. She was always very protective of my daughter.

From day one when they started in the play school they just hit it off with each other. If they’d been told at the age of three, four, or five that they couldn’t be friends it would have impacted their development.

Both of them struggled with reading at first but once my daughter’s best friend figured out how to read they began competing with each other and challenging each other to do better, and their reading took off.

Even all these years later they’re still the best of friends.

They've been like sisters for years and even though we moved to a new village and the girls are no longer in school together, they still have an incredible bond.

They’re in different secondary schools now because they’re in different towns, but they both chat every day, they ring each other when they come home from school.

If school policies had prevented the girls from developing that bond it would be a sad thing.

I can understand wanting to make sure no one is left out but I think it’s possible to make sure that no one is left out while also allowing that special bond to develop between two friends.

I think that those early bonds that children form are incredibly important. It was something I lost out on because I moved around a lot as child, and I saw that bond develop between other children.

A friend you make later in life will never quite match the bond you have with someone who you met on that first day of school when you were both nervous and learning together. I'm grateful every day for my daughter's best friend - and her second family.

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