• Looking after your grandchildren should be a joy, not a commitment.
• Being a grandparent is an art of knowing when to give advice and when to keep your distance.
• Tell your children a babysitting/caring schedule which is acceptable to you.
• Tell them your limits, or they will assume you have no limits.
• Discuss whose rules apply when you are looking after the grandchildren.
• Get the boundaries in place before you start.
• Your relationship with your grandchildren won't suffer because you are now looking after them. Children thrive on stability and consistency.
• Don't overfeed grandchildren. There is evidence to suggest that some children looked after by grandparents are overweight.
• Make sure you plan activities which are age appropriate.
• When you start to feel overtired or overwhelmed, let them know.
• Don't feel guilty. Don't be afraid to speak up and don't let resentment build up on either side.
• Grandparents are valuable teachers and have the opportunity to make a difference in the life of their grandchild.
• Grandchildren can enrich their grandparents lives with their love and zest for life.
For more information visit www.catholicgrandparents association.org