How to retract your claws
l Be honest
Ask yourself what you're competing over and why.
l Take the High Road
Just because another parent is talking fondly about their child doesn't mean your child isn't good at that particular thing, too.
l Be Sparing with your advice
When friends express concerns about their children, restrain yourself from rushing in with comparisons and solutions.
l Silence the parenting voice
The smug - usually loud - parenting voice when talking to our kids in public gives competitive parents an even worse reputation.
l Don't showboat your child's skills
Treating them like a show pony sends them a dangerous message.
l Stop rationalising
Competitive parents come up with many ways to excuse their behaviour.
l Separate child and achievements
Get some perspective: we don't need children to bring home certificates to validate our worth as parents.
l Be the best parent
By raising a balanced, self-accepting child, not one who is superficially successful.
l Realise we are in this together
Your child will never be happy or secure if you raise them with the idea that it's them against the world.
l Get a pet
Pets can teach children about responsibility and unconditional love. They get children and parents out of the house, reduce cortisol levels and release feelgood endorphins.