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Tuesday 15 October 2019

‘I could not believe it when I was told that my baby was there and had a heartbeat’ - Thrilled Irish family who beat the odds

Case study: Amie Berns

Amie Berns, her partner Dayne, and their baby Harry.
Amie Berns, her partner Dayne, and their baby Harry.
Amie and her son Harry Pic: Dawn McLoughlin

One of the most common causes of infertility amongst women is endometriosis, a condition Amie Berns is all too familiar with. Living in Wicklow with her partner Dayne, Amie feels incredibly lucky as she didn’t think she would be able to conceive. They are now parents to their one-year-old son Harry.

“When I got my first period, I passed out in the bathroom and my mum knew straight away that something wasn’t right,” says the 24-year-old.

“The GP said it was just my body adjusting to hormones and we thought that was probably the case, as every period was better — until I hit the age of 19 and met my partner Dayne.

“We were moving in together and everything was so exciting, until one day I woke up and couldn’t stop vomiting from period pain. I made an appointment with a gynaecologist and straight away was told that I had endometriosis.

“I hadn’t a clue what that was, but after surgery, they found out that I had it all over my organs and that I would probably struggle with fertility and not to get my hopes up.”

Naturally devastated by this news, the young woman and her partner tried in vain to conceive, but had to deal with failure for years.

Then in 2016, a ‘miracle’ happened and after putting a new bout of illness down to her condition, she discovered that she had somehow become pregnant.

“Dayne and I tried for three years to have a baby, but nothing happened, then in October 2016, I became ill and didn’t know what was wrong so went to A&E,” she says. “I was told I was pregnant and couldn’t believe it — they thought there was a baby there, but it was possibly ectopic.”

She had another scan two weeks later and they still couldn’t be sure so she had to wait another few weeks for a scan to determine whether it was a viable pregnancy or ectopic.

“On the very last appointment, I was booked in for them to remove the baby, but they had to do one more scan to be sure — and I could not believe it when I was told that my baby was there and had a heartbeat — that was definitely the best day of our lives."

"So I would advise people not to give up hope."

"Just because someone tells you that you can’t conceive, that doesn’t make it true — so I would say, never give up on your dreams because you just might surprise yourself, like I did.”

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