Tuesday 21 August 2018

Facebook is 'self-harm for childless women'

Forum: Jody Day. Photo by Simon Fairclough
Forum: Jody Day. Photo by Simon Fairclough

Facebook may be a blessing for old friends who want to stay in touch but it can be a curse for women who don't have children. So much so that Jody Day dubs the process of viewing photos of friends' children on the social networking site as "self-harm for childless women".

Day is the founder of Gateway Women, a British non-profit organisation that supports women who are childless by circumstance. It runs a private online forum that regularly fields comments from Irish women about how they are treated by friends and family for not having children.

'I really don't think Facebook is good place to be on when you don't have children," the 49-year-old said. "There is a lot of packaged parenting – you don't see pictures of Johnny coming in at 4am and throwing up on the sheets."

Day is the author of Rocking the Life Unexpected: 12 weeks to Your Plan B for a Meaningful and Fulfilling Life Without Children. After a post-divorce relationship broke down, Day realised she was doing "all the work" with friends who are mothers. "I wondered what would happen if I stopped," she says. "As a single childless woman, you're right at the bottom of the food chain when it comes to a social life."

Irish Independent

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