Blathnaid Ni Cofaigh's kid-free escape: 'there's no point getting away for just one night'
Late last year, my husband Ciaran and I took a two-night weekend in Carton House, Co Kildare. I never got people who said there's no point getting away from the four kids for just one night, but I get it now. You're only getting used to each other after one night. The second one is when you really relax.
On Saturday morning, I headed straight down there from RTE. Ciaran was at a match, and didn't get there till six. I loved it. I lay in the bath for two hours, topping up the hot water. Lying there, having a little drink; it's like a bad Whitney Houston video, but it was heaven.
On Sunday, we went for a long walk. It was freezing, but we've the boot full of thermals from all the kids' matches we have to go to. Unattractive, but very warm. We walked for about three hours. Ciaran played me mixes of songs he's working on, and he wanted my feedback, and I liked that. I read him some stuff I'm writing. That's the difference of getting the space to give each other some attention.
We had dinner in the House again that night, but it was a Sunday night, so it was quieter and lovely. I haven't played pool in years, but we played it in the beautiful old room, and sat up late talking and talking.
We need to get away together more often. The children won't be moving out for a long time yet, so we need to cultivate something for ourselves away from them. Even if it's only a kilometre down the road, it's the change of mindset that matters.
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