Wednesday 24 January 2018

'We are going to buy a grave for him' - Distraught mother believes missing son is dead

Missing person Dean Roche
Missing person Dean Roche
Cathal McMahon

Cathal McMahon

A heartbroken mum has told how she is going to buy a grave for her missing son.

Geraldine Roche last saw 31-year-old Dean when he left their family home in Kilkenny city to buy a new car on March 22, 2015.

The dad-of-one did not return but his new vehicle was found crashed a half mile from where he bought it in Balfoyle.

Now Geraldine has told she believes her son is dead and she is planning to buy a grave for him even though his remains have never been found.

“I know he’s gone because I feel it in my heart. He wouldn’t not contact his son, he wouldn’t not contact me.”

She continued: “We are going to buy a grave for him after Easter in St Ciaran’s cemetery in Kilkenny, not far from our house in Hebron Park.

“It is the last thing I will ever buy for him. I want to do it before I die.”

Devastated mum-of-three Geraldine explained that Dean struggled with heroin addiction and had a number of convictions for possession of the drug and related offences.

However she insisted that his disappearance is not connected to his personal problems.

“We checked all those routes out and he didn’t owe a penny to anyone. He knew that I would pay it. I had to pay because of his addiction. There are people who throw their kids out but I can’t throw him out just because he had problems.”

A taxi driver dropped Dean to the home in Balfoyle where he bought the car for around €200 on the day.

His vehicle was discovered crashed about half a mile away and one woman told gardaí she spoke to Dean on the day as he walked back towards Balfoyle.

“She said that she met him and asked if he was okay. She said he seemed a bit confused,” explained Mrs Roche.

Dean’s hat and jacket were discovered in a field near where his new vehicle was crashed. There has been no sighting of the father since.

Speaking today Mrs Roche appealed for anyone with information to get in touch.

“Whoever did anything I just wish they would tell me and so I could bring him home.”

She continued: “There are people out there who know what happens. They need not be afraid of me or anyone in my family. We are not violent.”

Dean’s case is due to be featured on an upcoming episode of Crimecall and his family are also hoping to search the River Nore in the city.

Mrs Roche said Dean’s son Jamie (11) is missing his dad.

“Jamie will be 12 this August. He idolised him. He is coping as a child but you can see it in the back of his eyes.”

On Tuesday the family marked one year since the disappearance with a candelight vigil.

“Every day is sad but that was worse. I stand at the door every Sunday at the time that he left and I can still see him going,” said Ms Roche.

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