Sunday 17 December 2017

Mum was bullied out of home by husband

Allison Bray

Allison Bray

ON the outside, she had it all: three children, a large five-bedroom house and a family business run by her husband.

But the reality was a living nightmare in which she was threatened to be murdered in front of her children, raped, stalked, humiliated and emotionally and mentally battered by the same man who eventually bullied her into leaving the house without her children after 23 years of marriage.

Her story was one of 40 submissions published by the Joint Committee on Justice, Defence and Equality yesterday on domestic violence.


The middle-aged woman, who chose to remain anonymous, said that unlike many other women experiencing domestic violence, her husband was canny enough not to leave any physical injuries so that getting a barring order against him from the court proved next to impossible.

"I tried to explain that although I had no physical injuries, I was being verbally and emotionally abused and I was living in fear of my life.

"I never knew if he was going to hit me, I never knew if he was going to force me to have sex. I was suffering terrible anxiety attacks."

Yet despite this, the woman said the only help she got from the courts was a protection order against her husband.

The woman claims she lost custody of her children because her husband had bullied their children into fabricating lies about her in court and she was too overwhelmed to fight back.

The publication coincides with the UN Day Opposing Violence Against Women yesterday.

Irish Independent

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