Man 'to bill his spoiled wife' over 'exceptionally difficult' mother-in-law
A man told his wife that he would be sending her a bill for the costs of accommodating her "exceptionally difficult" and "disruptive" mother in the marital home.
At the family law court in Ennis, the man said his 78-year-old mother-in-law broke a number of boundaries while staying at the marital home.
Documenting the instances, the man said his mother-in-law came into the marital bedroom in her underwear one Saturday morning when he was having a lie-in with his wife; re-arranged his socks, underwear and shirts in his wardrobe; and came into the en-suite bathroom when he was drying himself after a shower.
The man told the court: "For me, enough was enough."
In evidence, the man said: "I cooked breakfast, lunch and dinner for her (his mother-in-law) non-stop. I make her favourite dish, sherry trifle, and she pours the extra bit of sherry in for herself."
The court heard that the marriage between the couple "has irretrievably broken down" due to a financial issue and that the presence of the mother-in-law at the home has been a continuing source of tension over recent months.
In the case, the man's wife was seeking a Safety Order against her husband but Judge Fiona Lydon said that it hadn't been proved that one was required. She dismissed the application.
The wife told the court that her husband told her that "I can expect from his solicitor a bill for my mother staying in the family house. However, I pay all the bills."
One flashpoint was on Christmas night last when the man was watching a Tommy Fleming concert on TV.
He told the court: "I poured myself a glass of wine and at around 11.45pm, the mother just burst through the door and she was ranting about the television being on.
"I was highly offended - this woman was a guest in my house."
The woman has been staying with the couple off and on for a number of years and arrived at the marital home last June, and remained there until recently.
The man said that he would have "no problem" if the woman came three or four times a year, spending three or four weeks at a time.
"But the thing is she is a guest in my house. She cannot - I'm sorry - she cannot be allowed to raise her voice at me and tell me what I can watch and can't watch on television," he said.
"I am sorry - well, if she can do that, there then is something awfully wrong with our society."
The man said that because of his mother-in-law's "sulking behaviour, she is an exceptionally difficult woman".
The court also heard that the man spent €900 on shrubs and plants and that the mother-in-law pulled up plants and shrubs that didn't appeal to her and threw them into the bin.
The man rejected allegations that he had threatened violence against his wife or is capable of violence. He said: "That's nonsense. Absolute nonsense."
The man said he looked after his wife very well.
He said that anytime he would return home from overseas, he would buy his mother-in-law perfume while his wife "would get a €600 dress. She got a €12,500 engagement ring. This woman is spoiled".
Counsel for the man said that there wasn't a shred of evidence he had ever been violent towards his wife.
Judge Lydon said that the wife in the case was obviously stressed due to the relationship breaking down and asked her husband "to treat her with the respect she is due".