Saturday 25 January 2020

'I often thought about killing my mum,' admits abused son

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Gordon Deegan

A man thought of killing his mother to end the horrific abuse he and his younger siblings were suffering at her hands, a court has heard.

At Ennis Circuit Court, the man said his mother (47) made his life a "living hell" through years of physical and emotional abuse.

In his victim impact statement, he said: "I often thought about killing her as I knew it would make life better for my siblings but that would mean they would have to grow up without their older brother and they didn't deserve that."

He said: "She made my life so hard nearly to the point of me wanting to end my life."

However, the man - now aged 20 - ended the horrific treatment when he informed his school guidance counsellor and school principal of the terrible abuse being meted out by his mother to himself and his two younger brothers and sister. Following his statement, a Garda investigation was launched.

At that point in March 2015, his older brother had already run away from home.

Today the two are living together overseas while the three younger siblings are living with their father away from their mother.

Garda Kevin Duffy told the court that while the mother is allowed one hour of supervised access with the three children each week, only one child has chosen to meet her.

In his victim impact statement on behalf of the three youngest, their father said that the mother was "out of control" during a supervised visit in 2016 when she shouted at one of her sons and at the Tusla social worker.

In the case, the woman has pleaded guilty to ill-treating and neglecting her four children over a 30-month period between October 2012 and April 2015. No charges were brought against the mother in respect of the eldest as he had fled the jurisdiction before the Garda investigation was launched.

The court heard that the woman's only daughter told her father: "A mom is supposed to love, care and protect you, but she didn't do that."

When asked to describe herself as a mother in an interview with gardaí, the accused replied: "Cruel, violent, pathetic, unhappy."

Her counsel, Patrick Whyms BL, said that what the court had heard was "a horrific catalogue" of abuse and "no one was more horrified than the accused person herself".

In his statement to gardaí, the main complainant documented the years of abuse he suffered. In one incident in 2013, the teenager had a cast on his arm after breaking it while playing sports.

The teen was out some time later playing with friends in the front lawn at home when the mother demanded that he do a handstand with his cast on. He refused and his mother then assaulted him with an electric cable.

The complainant said his mother never brought him to any medical appointments in relation to his broken arm, forcing the boy to remove the cast himself in a hot shower after watching a video on YouTube.

No members of the family were in court for the sentencing hearing and the accused showed little or no emotion as she listened to the evidence and victim impact statements.

Judge Gerald Keys remanded the accused on continuing bail to May 21 though the judge said that he didn't know if he would have the sentence ready for that date.

Irish Independent

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