‘Time accommodates, but it doesn’t heal’ – Ryan Tubridy gives advice to heartbroken listener 15 years after relationship ended
Ryan Tubridy offered a heartbroken listener some words of advice as he struggles to get over a failed relationship.
The listener, who only gave his name as Frank, is still struggling to get over a woman he fell in love with 15 years ago.
He wrote to Tubridy’s RTE Radio One show to tell him that he still struggles to cope, after the pair enjoyed a relationship in their early 20s.
“Every event that has happened to me since, good or bad is always tinged with sadness, because in the moment I wish she was here to share it with me”, he said.
“Christmas is harder than all the rest. I’ve tried telling her how I feel over the years since but I’m so in love with her I get tongue tied and my face goes so red I can just about muster a ‘hello’ when I meet her, which is rare.
“I know we’ll probably never be together because sadly she is with somebody else and seems happy, whereas I’m hurting more and more every day.
“I realise there are people worse off than me, because I’ve a good job, a good family and a good circle of friends.”
He said he was hoping that Ryan or his listeners could offer him some advice.
“I could go on and on about how much I love her but I think you get the gist. I’m not expecting miracles but I do hope you or your listeners could give me some advice and help me find a way to move on and heal my heart to some degree to feel a little happiness in this sad broken heart of mine.”
The presenter then offered his listener some brief advice of his own:
“I have heard in different contexts that the expression ‘time is a healer’ is just that, it’s an expression and really not much else. Bob Geldof said to me on the Late Late Show that it accommodates, but it doesn’t heal. That was a perfect way of describing what time does, so that may be of use to you.”