Pranks, tears, drama...all in the first gay marriage on tonight's 'Don't Tell the Bride'
For the first time ever, a civil partnership will be aired on RTE’s Don’t Tell the Bride tonight.
Trevor Moore (29) from Mullingar and Alan Dunleavy (39) from Blanchardstown have been together over four years.
They fell madly in love, such that they’ve never spent more than two days apart.
And viewers will be treated to perhaps one of the most colourful episodes ever on Don’t Tell The Bride – with a gay pride-themed wedding, pre-wedding pranks, and lots of fraught emotions.
Trevor told independent.ie that he found the three week separation from his beloved Al almost insufferable.
“The longest we ever spent apart was two days, and the fact that he wasn’t there made it so hard. I cried and cried the first day he left.”
While Trevor is not usually big on practicalities in day-to-day life, he became the reluctant wedding planner and took to the task with gusto.
“Al is a catering manager and he’s used to dealing with suppliers and agencies. The only thing I ever organised before is a birthday party. And whenever I get any money, I transfer it straight away into Al’s account and I tell him to look after it.”
“I first wanted the Harry Potter theme but budget-wise, there was no way I could do it with the cost of props and stuff.”
“I really like colourful weddings but Al likes sophisticated and elegant and classy weddings. But I decided that gay pride is a great message to send out, and it’s very colourful as well.”
Trevor chose the Crown Plaza in Santry as the venue and he played a few pranks on his ‘bride’ coming up to the big day.
“I pranked him. I threw a few hissy fits. I sent a message for him and his guests on the stag night to dress up in their finery but then I sent them to a rollerdisco. Al hated that because he has no coordination.”
“I sent a black limousine to pick up his bridesmaids and then I sent a blue taxi to pick him up and he hated that. He wouldn’t get into the car, and eventually I sent a 1948 Rolls Royce.”
On the more romantic side, Trevor ordered a quartet to turn up at Alan’s doorstep to sing his favourite song Bette Midlers’ The Rose, and deliver the wedding invitations.
The stress of planning a wedding because all a bit too much for Trevor at times though.
“The lowest point definitely, and it was the most stressful out of anything, was the dresses. I’d five women to dress. I actually had a panic attack in the middle of Debenhams.”
“I lost my patience with my two groomswomen Sinead and Claire. I think it’s just because I wanted Alan back. It was just really hard for me because we’ve always spent so much time together.”
Trevor and Al are proud to be the first gay couple to have their nuptials aired on Don’t Tell The Bride, and they say they don’t care about negative feedback.
“I think it’s great that a civil wedding is getting aired this year. The stigma just keeps getting brought up again and again in the media. But I think people should be allowed to be exactly who they are.”
“A lot of the prices dropped when I told them that it was the first civil partnership to be shown on ‘Don’t Tell the Bride’. Every one of the places dropped the price, regardless of what the price was.”
“Regardless, people are either going to love or hate you and I’m braced for that.”