Monday 23 April 2018

The 10 worst online dating mistakes Irish men are making

"If you think women are mad, then you've never been online dating with a 35 - 45 single Irish man"

Conceptual keyboard - Find Love (pink key)
Conceptual keyboard - Find Love (pink key)

Our tongue-in-cheek anonymous blogger takes on the taboo of finding love on the internet.

I've been doing the whole internet dating thing for a little over a year now as a result of a new year’s resolution. I was sick of being a singleton in a sea of couples. So, I joined a popular dating website and for the first couple of months I pretty much had a date a week.

I was pro-active and got in touch with people. I tried not to judge by photos or bad spelling or bad grammar or text speak. I’ve tried to be open and honest with everyone I’ve met and expected the same in return.

It's been hilarious.

If you think women are mad, then you've never gone on a date with a 35 - 45 single Irish 'lad'. Here are my things to avoid for men trying to find love online - based on my own experiences!

1. Don't talk about your ex and how much of a "total b*tch" she is.

Bit awkward.


2. Don't try and talk 'sexy' or proposition someone on the first date.

This goes double if they've made it clear they're looking for a relationship.


3. Don't talk about how generally terrible women are.

Especially when on a date with one!


4. Don't look at every woman's arse as they walk by.

Or at least don't let your date catch you.


5. Don't say you're a gym bunny if it is clear that you are not.

As in, really clear.


6. Don't say I'm looking for someone to be a mother to my children, someone to look after me

That's a maid/nanny and I already have a job!


7. Don't criticise the clothes/hair of the person you're on a date with.

Talk about a confidence killer!


8. Don't put up a photo that is clearly ten years old.

It’s not a good sign if you can’t recognise someone in person.


9. Don't lie about what you do.

It's going to come out eventually and it just makes it a bigger deal than it needs to be.


10. Don't ASK FOR BUS FARE when you're leaving.



All jokes aside, I know that I have a part to play in all of this. Although my Mammy says I’m an 'absolute treasure' and would 'enhance anyone’s life in countless ways' – I am a 38 year old single woman, I am happily stuck in my own ways and a bit of a weirdo in my own right. It’s just a matter of finding someone whose weirdness is compatible with my own.

Internet dating has taught me that being single isn’t the worst thing in the world, it would be far worse to be in a relationship that wasn’t right. The vast majority of the dates I’ve been on have been enjoyable and there’s even one or two that I’ve kept in touch with as friends. For anyone thinking about trying it I say give it a go.

 I know plenty of people that have found love this way (some even on the first ever date they go on). But don’t take it too seriously and don’t expect too much. Be sure in your own mind what you are looking for. For me it was the acknowledgement that the people that I’m often attracted to aren’t always the best people for me. I’ll keep going on the dates, although I don’t have the stamina (or the finances) to do a date a week anymore. If I meet someone, great - if not, sure sometimes it’s the journey and not the destination.

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