Tuesday 23 October 2018

Anna Nolan: Being single again is tough… but I know there will be fun times ahead

Anna Nolan
Anna Nolan

It’s been a funny few months for me, I have to say. Last Saturday, I was telling Brendan O’Connor on The Saturday Night Show that I have had to adjust to being single and it has certainly brought its challenges.

Before, I was one half of a couple and as a result had support in every decision I made.

All my actions had someone else in mind- from shopping to cooking. From holidaying to socialising. I was one half of an entity and it was a wonderfully safe place to be.

Now I am on my owney-o. I can make decisions just for me. Which is good and bad. Recently I was cooking a meal and I felt cooking for one seemed so strange. There is very little motivation to actually sit at the table when you have cooked for one. So it’s a plate on my lap, watching Fashion Police, and tasting very little, as what is going down my throat feels more like sustenance than a meal.

Going out is weird. I don’t have the backup of someone saying ‘you look great’, or ‘hurry up, we’re going to be late’.

It’s my decision what I wear, what time I leave and how long I stay out.

I have been used to sharing every element of my life and now I can be as selfish and as self-serving as I want.

But it’s not all grim. I am seeing friends I fell out of touch with. I am spending more time with my family and have actually booked a holiday away for me and my mother. Yayyyy, coach trip!

I am learning to manage all the elements of my life that someone else had cared for over the last 11 years.

Breaking up is crap. But being single is not the worst thing in the world.

Getting used to it is the tough part, but I know that when everything settles down there will be fun times ahead.

Irish Independent

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