New Year's resolutions you should be making
Published 30/12/2013 | 11:04
New Year, New You' that's how the old adage usually goes, and with it comes a list of resolutions.
"But," says clinical hypnotherapist Jacqueline Hurst , "not all resolutions are made equal. There's a technique involved when it comes to deciding on, engaging with and following through with your new year's better intentions."
And it's worth taking the time to brush up on her easy techniques too; "in a 2007 piece of research by the University of Bristol, revealed that 88 per cent of the 3,000 who set New Year's resolutions failed," explains Hurst, who doesn't buy into the term 'new year resolution' at all.
"People seem to think that because it's January 1 they will suddenly change, fulfil everything and be brimming with motivation - but all it is, is a date - remember a shift doesn't have to wait for new year, you can start any process you want any day, any time, any year. Rely less on the date, and more on the right headspace if you really want to make small changes."
So if you're really resolute on new beginnings in 2014, here are Hurst's seven rules for making them happen. And remember, Hurst says change always begins "by being kinder to yourself, and by implementing, small attainable, measurable goals."
1. "In the 2007 study, men were 22 per cent more likely to achieve their goals when they were engaged in goal setting too (a system where real and sustainable goals are being set; such as losing a pound in weight each week, rather than saying "I'm going to loose four stone in weight."). Goal setting is ideal because this is attainable rather than unattainable. Short goals are much easier to achieve and put the person in a much better, more positive frame of mind than a long winded, this will take forever feeling would."
2. "Make your goals realistic. Make your expectations of yours goals realistic too."
3. "The study also showed that women succeeded 10 per cent more often when they made their goals public and found support from their friends. Having people support you when you're making a change is really helpful as it creates a sort of 'team' around you that will spur you on when you feel like you want to do anything and everything other than reach your goal."
4. "Any goal you set for yourself should be done in a really kind, gentle way. In other words, get yourself a far kinder internal dialogue. Berating yourself if you slip up will never take you to your goal."
5. "Starting any goal by saying you will 'stop' doing something means you are ultimately telling yourself you are going to take something away from yourself. This ends up with us subconsciously believing there is a void and ultimately we end up failing at our goal. It's a bit like dieting, when we deny ourselves, we rebel."
6. "Get your thought process correct. Positive self talk will always end up with positive results. Negative self talk will end up in negative results. Start speaking to yourself as you would your best friend."
7. "It is often better to focus on health rather than things like weight. Health is something that is much more important than the size of your bum, and actually feels far more rewarding."
For more information on Jacqueline Hurst go to www.jacquelinehurst.com; Telegraph.co.uk