'My husband and ex get on like a house on fire!'
Published 07/03/2011 | 05:00
So would you invite your ex to you wedding like William and Kate? Mum-of-one Marian Reid (34) from Drogheda did -- here she explains why.
'My ex John was my first 'proper' boyfriend. We started going out when we were in school and were together for six years. But then, in our early twenties, we decided we were too young to settle down and called it a day.
"It was an amicable decision and there was nobody else involved, so we remained friends.
"As we had made a lot of mutual friends while we were together, we wound up socialising in the same circles -- so thank God it was a clean break!
"About two years after splitting up with John, I met my husband Shane.
"We had actually been talking for ages on the phone through work and then met coincidentally out one night. We clicked immediately and will be married five years this July.
"From the very beginning, Shane knew all about my history with John and was very accepting of the fact that he was still in my life.
"He knows that there's absolutely no romantic attraction between us any more.
"When I first introduced Shane and John, I was a little bit nervous about how they'd get on -- but they got on like a house on fire.
"When John started seeing his current girlfriend Katie, I was careful how I went about getting to know her.
"Lads will get on over pints, but you never know how a girl will take you. It was only when I was planning our wedding that Katie and I really started to gel -- texting each other and going for walks. Now she's one of my best friends!
"Sometimes, we'll share funny stories about John -- but we never get together to bitch about him.
"When it came to our wedding, there was no question that John and Katie would be invited -- it was a given. John's mother was even there!
"In the end, they were the last guests to leave as we were having so much fun. Some people think it's funny to see the four of us out on the town together -- it's no big secret that John and I used to be an item.
"Unless you've had a really bad break-up, though, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't be friends with your ex.
"John was my childhood sweetheart -- but Shane is the love of my life."