It’s not the sex that makes marriage last, says Helen Mirren
Published 04/01/2013 | 08:35
THE actress said that she and her husband were not "remotely romantic" and viewed Valentine’s Day cards with horror.
“People get together for reasons other than sex and, although it’s important in the beginning for most couples, it’s not what makes marriages last,” Dame Helen told Women & Home magazine. “But I think the power of partnership in marriage is under-recognised in our society. That’s what makes marriages work, not sex.”
Asked about love and her own marriage to Taylor Hackford, a director she met in 1984 when she starred in his film White Nights, Helen said she would be “completely horrified” if he gave her a Valentine’s card.
“Taylor and I aren’t remotely romantic with each other,” she said. “And actually we appreciate the lack of romance in the other person.
“I’d be completely horrified if Taylor gave me a Valentine’s card. That’s not our sort of relationship at all – we would pour cold water on that sort of thing.
“We even forget to get each other birthday presents – I’m always thinking the day before, 'Oh, I must get Taylor something for his birthday.’ Without being corny, we try simply to be considerate to each other every day rather than lavishing each other with gifts.”
The couple share homes in London and Los Angeles and spend long periods away from one other, which is described by Helen as “important”.
Despite missing her husband when she is away, she said distance “stops us taking each other for granted” and “gives us space”.
The 67-year-old, who previously dated Liam Neeson before they both married, has been working in film and theatre for more than 40 years, also disclosed in the interview that she still gets stage fright.
She received her own star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame yesterday,
The actress said she “believed” in meditation but was “too lazy” to do it. Her new year resolutions, she said, were to go to the gym, lose weight and to stop procrastinating.
The full interview with Helen Mirren is in the February issue of Women & Home, on sale now.