Tuesday 26 September 2017

'It turned out my ex and I weren't the soulmates we thought we were'

Writer Jillian Godsil (47) from Wicklow got engaged after a two-month whirlwind romance. And though the union ended in divorce 16 years later, the mum-of-two still believes in love at first sight.

"When I first met my ex-husband at work, he was already married -- so I figured that was the end of the story. Once he got divorced though, my antenna went up! We hooked up at the office Christmas party after some Dutch courage. It was quite fast and furious. Almost immediately, we started living together and sharing money. Then in January, we discovered he was being transferred to Sydney. On Valentine's Day, he sent me a dozen red roses and a card asking me to marry him. By the time we got married in Fiji we had spent more time apart than together. But everything just seemed to click into place. It's only when we settled down after travelling that we realised we weren't the soulmates we thought we were. It doesn't matter whether it starts out as a slow, dripping romance or full-on love affair -- it's where you end up that counts. Unfortunately, my husband and I ended up veering off in different directions. However, I'd never consider my marriage a failure because I have two beautiful daughters to show for it. Marriage is a game of chance -- and I'd have no problem doing it all over again. Who knows -- my second great romance could be around the next corner!"

Irish Independent

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