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Saturday 26 July 2014

Dear Rosanna: Will tablets help boobs to grow?

Published 18/12/2013|14:21

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Rosanna: "It iis completely normal to develop at different stages and speeds."
Rosanna Davison at The Virgin Atlantic 18th Annual International Fashion Lunch in aid of the Rape Crisis Centre which took place at The Westin Hotel, Dublin.  
Pictures:Brian McEvoy
Rosanna Davison at The Virgin Atlantic 18th Annual International Fashion Lunch in aid of the Rape Crisis Centre which took place at The Westin Hotel, Dublin. Pictures:Brian McEvoy

Agony aunt Rosanne Davison answers readers' personal questions.

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Q ALL the girls in my class have started to develop but I’m 15 and I’m still as flat as a pancake. My mum even laughed at me when I asked her to buy me some bras and said it would be a waste of money.

My friend told me about some herbal tablets you can buy on the internet that help your boobs grow. They’re not cheap, though, but I’d honestly do anything to be just like the other girls. Do you think I should try them?

A IT is completely normal to develop at different stages and speeds. Some girls grow boobs quite young and get their first periods as soon as they hit their teenage years, while others take a bit longer to reach puberty.

There is no standard age, because everybody has their own unique and individual biochemistry which determines the speed of development, along with other factors, including their diet.

Research has also shown a positive correlation between late development and a lower incidence of hormone-dependant cancers later in life, so it does have plenty of advantages.

I don't believe in altering your hormones and the natural process of your development artificially, plus, you know nothing about the potential side effects of the tablets you mentioned, so I strongly advise against you purchasing anything to take.

You will develop at your own pace, and, until then, I see nothing wrong with investing in a couple of lightly padded bras to give you some shape and boost your body confidence.

Q A GUY I had been seeing for three months ended the relationship abruptly and said he just didn’t want to commit himself right now, as the 20s are for having fun not settling down. I was a little bit peeved, as no one likes to be rejected, and we also work in the same company, so I felt a little humiliated but figured I’d just move on.

That was a month ago and I was just getting accustomed to bumping into him now and again (it’s a big enough company and we work on different floors) when my colleague, who is also one of my closest friends, casually asked if I would mind if she went on a date with this ex.

I’ve since discovered that they have been flirting with one another for ages — all during the time I was with him. I feel so hurt by this I actually don’t know how to act around her any more. What do I do?

A IT sounds like you've made a lucky escape from this guy, who does not sound like the kind of person you would want to be in a relationship with if he is happy to flirt with your friend behind your back.

He has demonstrated a total lack of respect for you and your feelings, plus his fickle nature has really shown itself. I can appreciate that you feel hurt and betrayed by him and, probably, by your friend too, but my advice is to be the bigger person and rise above it all.

Remain civil and polite if you happen to bump into him at work, and don't pay attention to your friend's flirtations with him as, ultimately, you have no business getting involved in their burgeoning relationship.

Focus on your job and the right man for you will come along, and, hopefully, someone with more maturity than this man.

Q MY husband and I have been trying to get pregnant conceive for two years and are now saving for IVF. We both come from close-knit families who like to splurge at Christmas, and it is a sort of unspoken rule that we buy terribly expensive presents for one another.

I honestly don’t mind this but right now I feel we need to focus on the cost of fertility treatment. I mentioned this in passing to my mum but she didn’t seem to pick up on my worries and started talking about where she was going to get the tree.

How can I let them know that we just need to prioritise our plans for a family right now without |causing a fuss?

A IT’S good to hear that you have made the decision to buy more frugally this Christmas and you certainly seem to have your priorities in place. IVF is definitely not cheap, and you clearly want a baby badly enough to choose it, so it's important to give it your best shot.

Rather than saying nothing and presenting your loved ones with gifts that may disappoint them, even though I believe that presents should be tokens and a way of showing that you care, my advice is to explain to your family that you will be making some changes this year.

I think that honesty is the best policy and will clear up any potential misunderstandings.

Rather than spending the extra money, it would be nice for you to focus on really personal gifts, or even consider creating them yourself. Homemade cards, chocolate truffles, cookies and preserves also make gorgeous, inexpensive and thoughtful gifts.

Email your questions to Rosanna@herald.ie

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