And the horror stories ...
"I invited my first boyfriend to my wedding three years ago.
"His wife turned up alone instead and went home with one of the other guests.
"I don't know if he ever found out, but I haven't been able to look him in the eye ever since.
"It wasn't pleasant."
- "My wife knew my ex-girlfriend was very important to me and seemed to accept that.
"She came to our wedding and they ended up becoming great pals.
"But now every time we have a row, she throws it back in my face that I still have a thing for her -- which isn't true."
- "My ex and I were together for six years before growing apart. It seemed silly to just throw away six years, so -- although it took a while -- we remained friends.
"He was at my wedding last year, but I think we both just felt awkward -- especially knowing that we had discussed marriage ourselves."