Sting's wife Trudie: 'I’ve never felt that I was beautiful since childhood accident'
The 60-year-old businesswoman suffered facial scarring as a child
Published 06/04/2014 | 17:50
She might be one of the world’s most successful women, married to a rock star and with multiple businesses to her name, but it appears that even Trudie Styler has cause for self-doubt on occasion.
The film producer has disclosed that she has often believed that she was “not a very attractive person”, as a result of facial scarring she suffered as a child.
Styler, who married Sting in 1992, claimed she was “always unsure” of herself, despite her “fortunate” life.
The 60-year-old, who has four children and is based in New York, was knocked over by a van aged two, and had operations throughout her childhood, with Botox procedures to help reduce the scars. Her mother later won compensation from the company which owned the vehicle.
“The scars on the face have always given me a sense that I’m not a very attractive person,” she told Stella magazine. “I’m always unsure of myself, of my facial self.
“I’ve got to like myself, I think, through my relationship with Sting, who pours love over me.”
She added that the songwriter, who called his wife his “damaged angel” in his autobiography, has done more than anyone else to help heal her psychological scars after she was nicknamed “scarface” at school. “Through his devotion, and his belief in me in every way, but also telling me he finds me beautiful, I’ve started to heal that wound,” she said.
Styler would not talk about any cosmetic surgery she might choose to have in future, saying it was a “decision that’ll be made when I’m ready to make it”.
“I was operated on facially so much when I was young, and I had massive amounts of stitches,” she added.
“I had operations up until I was 18, then revision on my scars to put back my eyebrows. So I’ve had a lot of what is called plastic surgery. And I have huge, huge respect for what that is. Now I’m in the fortunate position to be able to do whatever I want to enhance my body, my face, myself. But I think women should really feel empowered, good about what they do for themselves. They shouldn’t be stigmatised: 'Ooh, have you seen so-and-so? She’s had a bit of work.’
She added that the situation for older women in the public eye “doesn’t seem to be getting better”, but that her production company, Maven Pictures, aimed to improve matters. At present, it is developing projects with Julia Roberts, Amy Adams and Cate Blanchett.
Styler has previously bemoaned the “paucity of women in film”, and said she was seeking to redress the balance by pushing women writers to write “substantive” female roles.
Saying it was a historical problem – with Shakespeare writing the “best roles for the guys” – she added that there was “still this idea that women are over by the time they are 40 so that they can’t play the love interest opposite a 50-year-old man”.
As well as her film work, Styler is organising the bi-annual gala in aid of the Rainforest Foundation she runs with Sting, which supports the rights of indigenous people in areas such as the Amazon.