Tuesday 17 October 2017

Lily Collins pens open letter to father Phil: 'I forgive you for not being the dad I expected'

Musician Phil Collins and Actress Lily Collins attend the after party for Relativity Media's
Musician Phil Collins and Actress Lily Collins attend the after party for Relativity Media's "Mirror Mirror" Los Angeles premiere at the Roosevelt Hotel on March 17, 2012 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Todd Williamson/Getty Images For Relativity Media)
Actress Lily Collins attends the 2017 Vanity Fair Oscar Party hosted by Graydon Carter at Wallis Annenberg Center for the Performing Arts on February 26, 2017 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by John Shearer/Getty Images)
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Actress Lily Collins says she has forgiven her famous father Phil Collins for "not being the dad I expected".

The 27-year-old has penned an open letter to the former Genesis star in her new book, saying she had learnt to accept the "sadness and anger" she felt towards him.

In an excerpt published by the Daily Mail, she wrote: "I forgive you for not always being there when I needed and for not being the dad I expected.

"I forgive the mistakes you made. And although it may seem like it's too late, it's not. There's still so much time to move forward.

Actress Lily Collins attends the 2017 Vanity Fair Oscar Party hosted by Graydon Carter at Wallis Annenberg Center for the Performing Arts on February 26, 2017 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by John Shearer/Getty Images)
Actress Lily Collins attends the 2017 Vanity Fair Oscar Party hosted by Graydon Carter at Wallis Annenberg Center for the Performing Arts on February 26, 2017 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by John Shearer/Getty Images)

"We all make choices and, although I don't excuse some of yours, at the end of the day we can't rewrite the past.

"I'm learning how to accept your actions and vocalise how they made me feel. I accept and honour the sadness and anger I felt toward the things you did or didn't do, did or didn't give me."

The letter is featured in Lily's debut book, Unfiltered: No Shame, No Regrets, Just Me, which is a collection of personal essays.

She also describes her battle with anorexia and bulimia, which she links to stress caused by her father's divorce from third wife Orianne Cevey, according to the Mail.

Phil Collins has announced a comeback tour
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"Not only did I start viewing myself differently physically, but I began limiting my happiness by controlling my eating habits," she wrote.

"I couldn't handle the pain and confusion surrounding my dad's divorce, and I was having a hard time balancing being a teenager with pursuing two different grown-up careers."

Lily, who was born in Guildford, Surrey, but grew up in the US, reportedly describes the "terrible disconnect" that grew between her and her father as she got older.

"Many of my deepest insecurities stem from these issues with my dad," she wrote.

Lily, who is the daughter of Collins and his second wife Jill Tavelman, was nominated for a Golden Globe this year for her role in Warren Beatty's Rules Don't Apply.

Her father Phil has four more children from two other marriages.

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