IF this was your last day of life what would be your biggest regret? came across a post recently directing me to a site that wrote about 'The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.' Curiously, I pressed on the link which brought me to an inspirational article written by a nurse that I would like to share with you my readers.
Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who for several years worked in palliative care; this meant that much of her work involved caring for patients in the last weeks of their lives. When she questioned her patients about any regrets they had or whether they would do things differently if they could turn back time some common themes were observed. The following were the most common five recorded:
'I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me' — This was the most common regret of all! She observed that when people are at the end of their lives they seem to gain an extraordinary clarity of vision.
'I wish I hadn't worked so hard' — This came from patients who felt they had missed their children's youth and partner's companionship because they had got caught up on the work treadmill existence.
'I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings' — It would seem that too many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others which invariably resulted in deep resentments – a cause of many health related illnesses.
'I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends' — Many patients had gotten so caught up with the business of their own lives that they let important friendships slip over the years.
'I wish that I had let myself be happier' — Interestingly enough many did not realize until their dying days that Happiness is indeed a choice! They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits of thinking and doing. Fear of change had them pretending to others and to themselves that they were content when deep within they longed to laugh and have more fun!
What about you? What do you regret and what will you do today to eliminate your regrets? How often do you battle your way through each day, being too busy doing things without ever stopping to reflect about what you are doing and why you are really doing them. You just do them, right?
Life is a journey and at some point in all our lives we are all faced with circumstances that cause us to re-examine our way of living. Many of us remain in our comfort zone as a result of self-imposed limitations, doubts and fears.
Many people who come to coaching have made a decision to step out of their comfort zone and are on a quest to live a more fulfilling life. When you are on your death bed, what others think of you will be the furthest thing from your mind! Reclaim your life – Reclaim your MOJO and make the most of celebrating your life today.