You can't compromise on some things
As you get older your life becomes a series of compromises. If you have traditionally seen yourself as deviant, those compromises are more difficult. But equally, as you get older, and especially when you come into your forties, you also get more and more set in your deviance. So it's a balancing act. I think the trick is to give in on the little things that make life easier, and to keep up the fight in your head and your heart on the important stuff. Key to this is the ability to distinguish between what matters and what doesn't.
So I give in on a lot of things just to get on with people and situations, while trying to stay true to the things that are important. Indeed, if you just go along in the ways that don't hugely matter, it saves your energy for the important fights.
So having held out for ages I decided I should probably get a puffa jacket. I had traditionally held out on puffa jackets because they made me look like the Michelin man. But there seems to have been a flurry of activity on puffa technology in the last few years and puffas now look a little less like a sausage bursting at the seams, or some kind of flotation device.