Sunday 25 June 2017

Well-being: Fighting talk - how conflict resolution skills can help

Conflict resolution tools can help you overcome any argument

It's important for a couple to remember they are on the same team
It's important for a couple to remember they are on the same team
Katie Byrne

Katie Byrne

Whether at work or at home, in life or in love, there's nothing as draining as conflict. Some people seem to thrive on it. They allow the slightest misdemeanour to spiral into full-scale war. Others fear it. They overlook every misdemeanour until their long-repressed anger explodes. Either way, most people don't know how to handle it. They allow the heat of the moment to dictate the pace and they are more concerned with 'winning' (whatever that means) than they are with resolving. But it's worth considering the following pointers:

Arguments can be healthy

There's often a huge misconception around arguments. People sometimes think they signal failure or are indicative of a fundamental flaw in the relationship. On the contrary, 'productive arguments' (as opposed to the ugly, flesh-eating kind) can strengthen relationships, especially romantic ones. A disagreement that is later resolved is often the glue that binds a couple together in the early 'power struggle' stages of a relationship. Later on, arguments are an opportunity to overcome a hurdle together and communicate at a deeper level.

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