Sunday 11 December 2016

Nice guys finish last

Published 07/02/2010 | 05:00

Sir -- I am writing in response to Niamh Horan's article about searching for 'Mr Right'. In it, she rightly pointed out that many men are simply too afraid to approach a group of good-looking women, of which thankfully our city is full. Men mostly need a load of alcohol to muster the courage to talk to such women, by which time they are in no fit state to make a positive impression anyway.

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All of this I am in agreement with. But I would like Niamh to consider the situation for a minute from the male perspective. She said that the only reason a girl would turn someone away was if they were drunk or leechy. I beg to differ. Consider the possibility that most guys see these women as unattainable in the first place; that these women's expectations are too high and that rejection by them is virtually guaranteed.

Most men who would end up approaching them are highly confident -- a characteristic gained through practice I would surmise. They are players, and exactly the type of men you probably need to avoid. I am recently single, as is a very good friend of mine. He is, as I am, the most decent and honest man you will come across, and would treat any woman he went out with like a princess. He is a normal guy -- no Brad Pitt I admit -- but the problem is that women for some reason seem to dismiss him as not good enough straight away.

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