Thursday 8 December 2016

Letters: Birth mothers should feel no sense of shame or fear

Published 14/06/2014 | 02:30

Philomena Lee, daughter Jane and son Kevin at the grave of her son Michael A. Hess in Roscrea. Picture: PJ Wright
Philomena Lee, daughter Jane and son Kevin at the grave of her son Michael A. Hess in Roscrea. Picture: PJ Wright

* As an adopted person, lucky enough to be adopted by loving and caring parents, I was surprised to read Martina Devlin's article (June 12) about the trauma that adoptees' birth mothers (of course, she never mentioned the birth fathers) would face if their adopted children were allowed access to information that would identify them, or if that information became publicly available.

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The premise of her article seems to me to be that having a child adopted is some sort of secret that some birth mothers should be allowed to keep secret? Why? Because their husbands or children wouldn't approve?

If the reaction to finding out that your wife, mother, aunt, grandmother, sister went through the trauma of having to give away a child resulted in anything more than the warm embrace of love and support, I would be amazed and would question the emotional health of such a marriage or family unit in the first place.

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