Tuesday 28 March 2017

Working mum hits back: 'Until you’ve walked in my well-worn shoes, you can’t possibly judge my life or the choices that I’ve had to make'

Melanie Finn reacts to Niamh Horan's recent comments on working mums who 'ride the system' when having children

Heated debate: Melanie Finn reacts to Niamh Horan's recent comments on working mums
Heated debate: Melanie Finn reacts to Niamh Horan's recent comments on working mums
Melanie Finn

Melanie Finn

Here’s an interesting anecdote after I had my first baby three years ago. Amid the deluge of well wishers and messages of congratulations, one question emerged consistently through the fog of post-natal euphoria.

“So are you going back to work?” I laughed it off initially but as the months passed, the question became asked more frequently and it started to give me pause for thought and I found it a wearying suggestion. Do you know how many times my husband was asked that question after we had Rían? That’s right – none. Even though we do exactly the same job.

Although we may have felt like we had won the lottery after having our much-longed for baby, the reality was we were financially strapped. Like many couples of our generation, we had bought stupidly over-priced houses at the height of the Boom with equally daft variable mortgages. I took a full year off at the height of the Recession and going from living a relatively stress-free life financially to having to watch every single cent was a challenge.

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