Answers to what exactly happened won't ease pain
I listened to my wife describing the awful tragedy that was emerging in Berkeley, California, and I was hit with such a feeling of anxiety and sadness that I didn't say anything for a while. Indeed, my wife wondered if I had even heard her.
I was a bit taken aback by the strength of my own emotional response. I am often faced with families' powerful feelings and traumas, but the closer their experiences match my own experiences as a parent, the harder I find it to regulate my own instinctive emotional response.
And that is what happened as I listened to my wife. I was immediately and painfully transported to the edge of the shock, horror and grief that a group of Irish parents are experiencing in the aftermath of the terrible accident.