Saturday 21 October 2017

Why there are no easy answers in the prostitution debate

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Mary Kenny

Mary Kenny

A little while ago, a man in his 70s - who had lost his wife two years previously - asked me if I would advise him to go to a prostitute. He hadn't had much luck in "dating", but he missed having a regular sex life with his late wife.

My answer was morally neutral (and possibly cowardly). I couldn't make that choice for him, I said. All I could do was to draw on my experience of having interviewed a number of prostitutes in the course of journalistic duty.

The successful ones were hard as nails and despised men for their neediness, the less than successful ones were "poor cows" (in author Nell Dunn's phrase, exploring the theme of women as victims). Perhaps he should try a little harder with his dating endeavours? Charm can go a long way in winning hearts and bodies.

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