Thursday 8 December 2016

Waiting four years before remarrying is a good idea

Separating or divorcing couples should not be in any great hurry to walk down that aisle again, writes Carol Hunt

Published 03/07/2016 | 02:30

FALSE PROPHETS: ‘No’ campaigners in the referendum 20 years argued that family life would be destroyed by divorce as men walked out on their wives. This simply did not happen. Photo: RollingNews.ie
FALSE PROPHETS: ‘No’ campaigners in the referendum 20 years argued that family life would be destroyed by divorce as men walked out on their wives. This simply did not happen. Photo: RollingNews.ie

It was the day after November 24, 1995, that I finally got the courage to say "I will". The divorce referendum had been passed, albeit by a very slim margin, and within months couples in Ireland would finally have a 'get-out clause' when they agreed to stay together "for better for worse, in sickness and in health" and whatever other promises they made in front of the altar.

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Myself and the current Mr Hunt married in 1996. I told him I could safely agree to do so, knowing there was legislation now in place which could undo the whole process, just in case either of us got buyer's remorse at some later stage.

Don't get me wrong. I'm as romantic as the next person, but human nature being what it is, I could never understand why people, no matter how much in love, could agree to embroil themselves in a relationship till death did them part. We all make mistakes and a lifetime of misery was a very great punishment to have to live with if you found out the person you married wasn't quite the perfect partner for life that you'd been hoping for. People change over time, as do circumstances, our laws needed to reflect that.

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