Sunday 23 July 2017

Mid-life crisis: Chasing my beautiful little mystery

At the age of five, daughters pass you out in terms of emotional intelligence
At the age of five, daughters pass you out in terms of emotional intelligence
Brendan O'Connor

Brendan O'Connor

The elder one asked me did I ever wish I knew what other people were thinking. She's been asking these kinds of questions a bit recently. Stuff about the origins of the universe and whatnot. So I thought it was one of those and answered it in the general sense. Basically saying that you might think you want to know what other people are thinking, but you don't really.

It turned out her question was specific, and it related to her sister. It turns out she has taken to asking Mary what she's thinking about. And Mary has not been giving satisfactory answers. I'm aware of this myself.

Sometimes Mary will say something strange to me, something that seems piercingly perceptive in an adult way and when I push her on it, wondering if she really meant what it sounded like, she'll just say, "Oh nothing", in a vaguely condescending way. As if I wouldn't understand the complex thoughts of a six-year-old with Down syndrome.

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