Opinion

Wednesday 20 September 2017

At last, we'll no longer treat loss of a baby with cruel indifference

'The words 'one has died, that makes it easier' still ricochet around my brain'

Each year, there are an estimated 14,000 miscarriages in Ireland. It is by no means a unique situation to have a stillbirth, a miscarriage, or a diagnosis of fatal foetal abnormality (Stock photo)
Each year, there are an estimated 14,000 miscarriages in Ireland. It is by no means a unique situation to have a stillbirth, a miscarriage, or a diagnosis of fatal foetal abnormality (Stock photo)
Deirdre Conroy

Deirdre Conroy

When I was pregnant with twins in 2002, the obstetrician checked my ultrasound before I had an amniocentesis. The words "one has died, that makes it easier" still ricochet around my brain. Dumbfounded, two prospective parents left the hospital, holding hands.

In the car, I wondered was I a bit sensitive, perhaps that's how it is in hospitals - pragmatic, detached.

Three weeks later, we were called back for the results. Once again, we left hand-in-hand, bewildered, now two would be dead.

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