We won't recover if we keep picking at wounds
We may not be masters of our own destiny but this is all the more reason to get up and fight our corner, writes Brendan O'Connor
SO, SAY you are in a crisis. A really bad crisis. Life-or-death stuff. Or, at the very least, lose-everything stuff. What's the first thing you do? Obvious, isn't it? You would stop everything and commission a report on how it was that you got into this crisis.
So you'd be lying on the side of the road with your leg broken and before you got anyone to call an ambulance or anything, you would say, "The first thing we need to do is to establish how this happened. Who is to blame? What was the sequence of events that led to me being here on the side of the road with my leg broken? I need to ensure that this will never happen again, and furthermore, I need to know who is to blame. Only when I have figured that out can I start the long journey to the hospital and recovery."
If you didn't do that, you might possibly wonder about what your next course of action should be. So you would commission a report on that. You would call some consultants to where you were lying and you would say to them, "I am wondering whether I should call an ambulance first or should I call my loved ones first, and if and when I do call an ambulance, I am wondering which hospital I should ask to be taken to. Even though they will not ask for my opinion on it, because I am not the master of my own destiny right now. So maybe you guys could go away and think about it all for a while and I will suspend any further decisions until you come back and tell me the merits of various courses of action and then I will do what I am told to do anyway by the paramedics. And meanwhile I will lie here being run over by more and more cars until I am roadkill."