Painful adoption issues still remain
Published 24/02/2006 | 00:11
Medb Ruane WHAT would it take to walk away from a little boy like Tristan Dowse? The three-year old's troubled eyes gazed into our souls last year in a complicated story involving inter-country adoption, alleged lack of bonding and the never-ending riddle of whether money can buy you love.
In August 2001, two-month old Tristan was chosen to become the first son of Joe and Lala Dowse. He lived with the family until he was almost two years old, when the couple decided he wasn't the son for them.
Joe, a Wicklowman, is an Irish citizen; Lala, a professional in her own right, was from Azerbajian where she had already given birth to a daughter by another father. She'd reportedly thought she couldn't become pregnant again but after they adopted Tristan, she did. The family then returned from Indonesia to Azerbaijan where they live with Lala's daughter and their infant son.