Sunday 28 December 2014

We have the ability to break out of our 'Comfort Zone' prison

Jane is one of the most compassionate, caring and loving people I know . . . yet she takes no prisoners. She makes things happen. She knows that the 'Comfort Zone' on the negative Red Platform is the greatest enemy of our human potential.

She knows that all the magic in life happens outside the 'Comfort Zone,' not in it. So Jane cajoles and inspires everybody she works with to break out of their 'Comfort Zone' prisons and enter into the field of all possibilities.

Jane is a member of staff at St Catherine's in Newcastle, Co Wicklow. Together with her team, she does amazing work with our son, Alexander. He was recently the star of The Saturday Night Show. He has Mowat-Wilson Syndrome. That means that he:

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Having said all that, he is a magical child. People have been telling me that with one wave of his hand during The Saturday Night Show (on March 8), he touched the heart of the nation. Host Brendan O'Connor spoke for us all when he said, "I think he likes me!" Magic.

Jane is a firm believer that you should never ever do for a child what a child can do for themself. So she's always challenging Alexander to move outside of his 'Comfort Zone,' to walk across the floor, to take another step and find another gear. She encourages him to do another little activity, to stretch that tiny little bit.

In the book, The Green Platform, I wrote: "When Genevieve and Fionn, his brother and sister, were growing up, it was often in the world of action and doing. Brush your teeth. Do your homework. Tidy your room. Hurry up. Get ready. Put away the dishes please. Come on. Let's go."

"But as you look at, listen to, touch or help Alexander with this or that you join him in being completely present, not wanting anything other than the moment as it is. He helps transport all of us to a different place in life. The world of 'being' behind all the 'doing.' A higher level of consciousness. Now there is nothing wrong with the doing, but if our lives are only about the 'doing,' and no time for "being," then our lives will be very impoverished. After being in his presence, we can go back energised to the 'doing,' again."

I was making the point that behind all the doing there is a place of being, a quiet place of peace, joy and silence where the mystics go. It is called the present

Jane appreciates Alexander's ability to get us into the now, into the 'being' behind all the 'doing.' But she won't allow Alexander to spend his life in the 'Comfort Zone' of being. She is also the guru of doing. She doesn't see Alexander as disabled, but rather differently abled. She understands yin and yang, exercise and rest and being and doing.

When they achieve even a small breakthrough with him there is so much encouragement, praise and celebration. We all need a Jane to get us out of our 'Comfort Zones' to take daily exercise.

Declan's book The Green Platform is available in all good bookshops

Declan Coyle is a director of Andec Communications. His motivational techniques have been used by several All-Ireland winning teams. declan@andec.ie

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