A resolution for all seasons - why we should just take them one at a time
Published 06/01/2016 | 02:30
When people make New-Year resolutions they are only fooling themselves - and the rest of us. We are all human and our good intentions fall by the wayside like melted snow.
So I have decided this year to break 2016 into four. That way just when my resolve is dwindling at the end of March - if I last that long - I'll renew my 'vows' on April 1st. Or am I only fooling myself?
My main resolution for 2016, in its four stages, is to be more tolerant and I think that is the most difficult.
What does being tolerant really mean?
I've spoken to quite a few experts about this over the past while and they all say it starts with your mindset as you walk out the front door.
If you are in a bad mood, in a rush, pre-occupied with a call from the office or news that the traffic is bad you are already well down the road to, at best, beeping your horn at some minor offence or, at worst, unleashing a tirade of verbal abuse at some poor creature or other.
Far worse, you run the risk of turning into a momentary bully and prevent people from slipping into traffic from side-roads etc.
And when you are in a temper like that you will make mistakes. Nothing surer. You will drive too fast; you will definitely be distracted. And all the while the risk percentage of an accident increases.
But you know all this. You don't need me to tell you.
Yet it happens to us all at some time. So I'm going to take my own advice for each quarter of the coming year. And that is to start the car every time with a reminder that I need to realise I am, figuratively, taking the reins of a killing machine and that I need to give all my attention to that above everything else.
Here goes. Maybe you'd like to try the Four Seasons approach too? I think it stands a better chance than the great once-a-year pledge.
Let me know what you think?