Mindful moment… Make the first move
Nine months ago a friend of mine saw a man at the bar and knew instantly that he was The One. The attraction was so strong that she walked right up to him and started talking to him, something she would never normally do. "I knew I couldn't leave without talking to him," she said.
Three months later they moved in together and are now talking about marriage. So, how did she get so lucky? A few years ago, after a bad break-up, Clodagh read The Secret, the self-help book which argues you can have anything you want in life, if you just believe. Following one of the book's exercises she wrote a list of what she wanted in an ideal man on the back of an envelope. She wrote things such as: funny, down to earth, has own business, likes sport, loves children, loves his parents... and then she waited for The Universe to deliver, as the book promises. It might have taken a lot of bad dates but she eventually got the guy who ticks every single box for her. She is putting her good luck down to The Secret but I put it down to something else: the fact that she did what many of us wouldn't - she had the courage to walk up that day and say "hello". Maybe that's all it takes.
* Marianne Power is the author of helpmeblog.net