Mindful moment… Invest in your friendships
Published 31/01/2016 | 02:30
I once went on a very unsuccessful internet date. Within two minutes it was clear to both of us that there was no spark - his face actually fell when he saw me - so we sipped, awkwardly, on our drinks and made polite conversation.
It turned out that he'd just ended his marriage. He and his wife had run a pub together so when he left her, he also left his work, his house, his income… he was starting his life from scratch, aged 44.
My date was staying at his friend's house, helping in his business in return until he got back on his feet and found something else. "I don't know where I'd be without him," he said about his best friend.
And then he used a phrase that has always stayed in my head: "Your friends are your insurance. You must always look after them because one day you'll need them to look after you."
In the years since we met, I have found this to be true. Our friends are our insurance and we must always keep investing in them. It can be as simple as remembering to check in so they know you care.
* Marianne Power is the author of helpmeblog.net