Dear Rosanna: My boyfriend hates my new sex toy
MY BEST friend returned from a recent trip to Amsterdam for a hen party and surprised me by bringing me back a present of a vibrator.
I’ve never had a sex toy before and was dead nervous about using it, but I couldn’t wait to get home to show my boyfriend.
I thought he’d be excited, or if not, a little amused. He couldn’t have been more disgusted than if our new dog had run wild about the place destroying the furniture. He didn’t want the dog either, but I insisted. Now he is insisting that I throw the vibrator out as he says it cheapens our relationship and will only end up getting in the way when we’re in bed.
Meanwhile, my best friend’s boyfriend is loving using their new vibrator while having sex.
IT SEEMS that sex toys are pretty divisive. Some people think they're an exciting boost to their sex life, while others associate them with cheap pornography. It's a matter of personal taste, as you have clearly discovered.
It probably came as a shock to you that he was so disgusted, but he probably feels that a sex toy is tacky and completely unnecessary. Plus, if your sex life was good anyway, then there's no need to use added extras. I suggest you ignore what your friend and her boyfriend are getting up to with her vibrator as each relationship is different and I don't feel that it’s even appropriate to know so much about other people's sex lives.
I think it would be a good idea to put away the vibrator for now and drop the whole subject with your boyfriend. It was only meant to be a bit of fun and it's really not worth having an argument over. He may eventually want to experiment with it in the future, but now is not the time.