‘I don’t think any man could have stuck around’ - Fair City actress Clelia Murphy on becoming a single mum at 22
Published 08/08/2016 | 15:19
Fair City star Clelia Murphy has opened up about becoming a single mother to her daughter Clarabelle at 22 and said she was “better off” raising her on her own.
The actress (40), who plays Niamh in the RTE soap, revealed that she had great support from her mum when she became pregnant unexpectedly in her early twenties and said that a man couldn’t “have done the job”.
Happy Pride!! Proud to be Irish!! pic.twitter.com/MixAk1yFxR— Clelia Murphy (@clelia_murphy) June 25, 2016
Speaking to The Irish Independent’s Mother & Babies magazine Clelia said: “I had Clarabelle so young and because I had her on my own, not only did my life change, but she was very much the structure for how my life then carried on.”
“I was very lucky, I had my mum and grandparents so they were a great support. I think I was better off being a single parent because I don’t think any man could have done the job that my extended family did, and I don’t think any man could have stuck around while we all did it,” she said.
Clarabelle is now 18, but her mum revealed that she is having a hard time coming to terms with the fact her baby girl is now an adult.
“Clarabelle was 18 in May, so I am now a parent to an adult and that has brought me a completely different perspective on things. I am only getting used to it, the fact that I can send her to the shop for a bottle of Pinot Grigio, not that I would,” said Clelia.
One mistake Clelia admitted she did make was telling those around her of her baby name plans ahead of Clarabelle’s birth.
“I knew Clarabelle was going to be a girl, but it didn’t help me at all with her name. I was overdue and I still hadn’t decided on a name, and I just went to bed one night and dreamt that I was going to call her Clarabelle. However I made the mistake of going through the whole nine months before telling people different names and everybody was saying, ‘Ah you can’t call the child that’.”
“So I think if you are really mad about a name, the best thing is to not tell anyone about it until the kid is born because nobody’s going to say anything then, not to your face anyway,” she said.