Thursday 29 June 2017

'I've never felt the ticking of the clock'

Child-free Janet Barrett (39), from Cork, works in event management, but isn't planning to host any christenings or kids' birthday parties of her own -- here she reveals why.

"When I got married at 28, my husband and I assumed, we would start a family. After falling in love and getting married, having a baby seemed like the natural progression. But when that relationship fell apart for many different reasons, I began to question whether having children was a given.

"In my twenties, I was very much a 'Yes' person -- looking after everyone else and putting myself at the bottom of the list.

"Since becoming single again, I feel like I've found myself again; I've moved to Dublin, have my own apartment and a great job. And while it may sound selfish, to be honest, I'm starting to enjoy my own company.

"Working in event management, you have to be flexible and often end up working late nights -- it's not that's conducive to having children.

"At this stage, I've got used to the freedom of being able to go out after work or go away for the weekend without having to worry about who'll mind the kids. Don't get me wrong, it's not that I don't like children.

"In fact, I have six nieces and nephews whom I love spending time with -- and have even been nicknamed 'Superaunt'.

"My sister has three children under four, and what she does is phenomenal.

"Personally, I just don't think I'm cut out for motherhood and have never really felt the ticking of the biological clock. When I was married, people would inevitably ask: 'When are you going to have kids?'

"Now, it's not even a conversation as lots of my friends are single too. If I met someone who wanted to have children, maybe my attitude would change.

"And I don't know if you can ever categorically say: 'I'm never having children' -- but for now, I'm perfectly happy to be child-free."

Irish Independent

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