Thursday 8 December 2016

Dear Daughter

The relationship between mother and daughter is one of nature's most potent bonds. Today, to celebrate Mother's Day, we asked well-known mothers from different walks of life to tell us what words of wisdom and lessons from life they would like to impart to their little girls as they send them out in the world. Photography by Sarah Doyle. Styling by Liadan Hynes

Published 14/03/2010 | 05:00

My greatest wish for Laura is that she will have a happy and healthy life and be fulfilled in her work as a professional make-up artist. Laura has recently started her own business with her colleague Michele at the Nail & Make-Up Bar, in Blackrock, Co Dublin. They are venturing out at a difficult time as young entrepreneurs. My advice to Laura is to be professional in your work and supportive of your business partner. Be courageous and open to change and new challenges, even if they carry risk. Work hard but make sure there is plenty of fun and laughter in your life. Stay grounded; the world of fashion and beauty can be superficial at times.

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Keep up your other artistic interests and talents.

Travel, and experience the wider world. Nurture your friends; they will sustain you through difficult times ahead.

Always be in control of your life. Achieve and maintain economic independence. Learn to make decisions and stand over them. Life is a journey and you are only at the beginning. Stay connected with your family and those who love you.

We create memories for our children, we laugh, we cry, we dance, we sing, we learn together. It is amazing when you arrive home from hospital with this little baby who relies on you for everything. It changes your life for the better but it takes getting used to. It is hard work from baby to now; Sophie is six, and Dalton is four. But it is very rewarding.

Seeing our children so friendly, polite, and good natured makes me proud, as I know as parents we are doing well. I will always encourage our children to follow their dreams and travel.

I would hope they love like I have loved, laugh like I have, and share friendships like I do.

My mother has a heart of gold and every Mother's Day I appreciate her more, as I realise how hard it is being a mum and how amazing mine is.

I love her so much.

I will always teach Sophie to respect people and to treat others how she would want to be treated herself.

I tell our children to believe in themselves, and that anything is possible.

They will make mistakes but I hope, like me, they will learn from them; we do our best as parents and hopefully it will be enough to give them a good start to life.

Sometimes life isn't easy or fair but you need to have the strength to hurdle the obstacles that come your way as it won't always be rosy but, please God, I will be here long enough to help them pick up the pieces.

There are days when I am so tired I don't fancy going for that car journey, or walk, or to the park, but when I do I am glad I did. So, more often than not, I continue to create memories.

I value how lucky I am to have them both and love them with my heart and soul.

Gillian Quinn, Pilates instructor, horse trainer, mother of two, and Ashling Quinn, model, student, 16

Ash, as your Mum, all I'll ever want for you is happiness and fulfilment. I believe that so long as you always give your best and try your hardest in whatever it is you choose to do, you'll rarely have cause for regret. Even when you make mistakes, I know you'll just turn them into life experiences to be learnt from.

I hope you fulfil your dream to travel the world; eating, sleeping, breathing and loving every adventure that it brings you. I remember when we travelled on a charity horse-riding trek to the Sahara desert four years ago and you were only 12. I learned so much from you on that trip.

When we settled down in our tents on that first night, in the Atlas mountains, all I could think of was, 'How can I get out of this?' I hated it, whereas you, the only child among 30 adults, were completely in your element and when I told you how I felt, you said that I should give it a bit longer and that if I was going home, you wanted to stay on for the remaining 10 days regardless.

I did as you said and you were so right, I had the adventure of a lifetime with you.

Your enthusiasm for life and hunger for new experiences are an inspiration to me. You are an exceptional girl; your beauty on the outside is only a small reflection of the beauty inside you. Rearing you this far is one of my proudest achievements.

I love you, Chicken. X

We are in the happy position of having four daughters. As you can imagine, there is a constant exchange of robustly held views. My advice to my daughters would be; you must always fend for yourself, be independent. The only way to do this is work hard; get good exams, which lead to good jobs and financial independence.

Mind each other. Family is very important; you must all look out for each other. The support system of an Irish family is second to none. Read, read, read; it improves the mind, improves communication skills; provides kids with some 'me' time away from the constant assault and stress of iPods, Bebo, Facebook, TV, and so on, and it makes them self-reliant and independent.

Get out into the great outdoors. I'm not a great fan of non-stop supervision of a child's leisure activities; there's nothing like putting them out the back door to run around the fields. This can become challenging when they prefer high heels to wellies.

The dreaded drink is a very tough one for all parents, particularly with our drink-orientated culture. The peer pressure on kids these days is very difficult indeed, and we have to recognise that. The main thing to do is to encourage them to mind themselves, and take care of themselves at all times, and in all situations to be aware. It is very encouraging to see that their peer group and friends actually do look out for each other, and have designated non-drinkers, and watch out for each other at clubs and at night time. We strongly encourage them to bring their friends home and socialise here, where some protection and parameters are set.

Parents also must present a united front -- our little darlings will ruthlessly exploit any chink whatsoever.

The most important thing for Eddie and I is to try to keep lines of communication with the children open, even at very high decibels! Sometimes a policy of ignoring something until matters have calmed down a little is the wisest course. We always tell them that nothing is so bad that they can't tell us. Parenting is an imperfect science; you can only do your best.

My advice to Georgia would be to stay just the way you are, a down-to-earth, happy girl who embraces life and everything that comes with it. Live life to the full and enjoy your youth, because it goes way too quickly. Be true to yourself and know that you are an excellent role model for your sisters and brother, who look up to you. Make sure your partner in life is also your best friend. Be proud of everything you do, no matter how trivial it seems at the time.

Don't be afraid to try new things, even if they seem difficult, as life is full of hurdles that we have to overcome. You have always had a wide circle of friends that have stayed with you since your school days. That is because of your loyalty towards them: always be like that and never change, it will stand to you in time. Finally, stay carefree and completely crazy, as that's the reason we love you so much. PS: Wear sunscreen. Lots of love, Mum. XXXXX

Don't just talk the talk; make sure you walk the walk. It's really important to come through with things, to follow through. Work hard and play hard. Balance is important. Be kind. Treat others as you would treat yourself. Be active in mind and body. Family and friends are really important. Know how lucky you are. Remember it regularly. Don't take things for granted. Look at the positive side of things: the glass is half full. Be confident. Look it even if you don't feel it.



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Liz wears: Dress, Yasmin Velloza. Laura wears: Jacket, Twenty8Twelve, BT2. Dress, H&M

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Gillian wears: Dress, Reiss. Shoes; jewellery, Gillian's own. Aisling wears: Dress, Miss Selfridge, House of Fraser. Shoes; jewellery, Aisling's own

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Lisa wears: Top; bolero, Fran & Jane. Jeans, Lisa's own. Sophie wears all her own clothes

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Marie wears: Dress, Black Halo, Harvey Nichols. Georgia wears: Lingerie, Topshop

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Kate Walsh and Constance Cassidy wear all their own clothes. Constance Walsh wears: Jacket; dress, Selected Femme, Brown Thomas. Shoes, Constance's own. Elanor Walsh wears: Dress, Herve Leger, Brown Thomas. Jacket; shoes, Elanor's own. Jane Walsh wears: Dress, Alice, Brown Thomas. Jacket; shoes; hairband, all Jane's own

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Tanya wears: Dress, Roberto Cavalli, Brown Thomas. Jewellery, Tanya's own. Lauren wears: Top, American Apparel. Skirt, Topshop

Yasmin Velloza, 43 Dawson St, D2, tel: (01) 633-6953

American Apparel, 114 Grafton St, D2, tel: (01) 633-6953

Photography by Sarah Doyle

Assisted by Tyler Alexander Walton

Styling by Liadan Hynes

Assisted by Zoe Whitmore

Hair by Paul Davey, for DaveyDavey, email daveyanddavey@yahoo.co.uk

Make-up by Seana Long, Eadaoin Myler and Cara Casey, all for Make Up For Ever, 38 Clarendon St, D2, tel: (01) 679-9043

Liz O'Donnell and Laura Taylor Carson's make-up by Laura Taylor Carson, for Nail & Make-Up Bar, 12 Main St, Blackrock, Co Dublin, tel: (01) 210-4641;

or for Laura, email ltaylorc85@hotmail.com

Shot at The Beacon Hotel, Beacon Court, Sandyford, D18, tel: (01) 291-5000, or see www.thebeacon.com

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