Mum pens powerful open letter to her husband’s mistress: ‘He was supposed to love this version of me too’
Published 15/07/2016 | 11:03
A woman who discovered her husband was having an affair in a revealing email has penned an open letter to the woman who brought on the end of her marriage.
Last summer, Australian woman Carlie Maree (31) was horrified to receive an email from a woman who was sleeping with her husband, which depicted intimate details about their relationship.
Carlie, who has a two-year-old daughter, has since broken up with her husband following the email’s revelations and penned an open letter to the woman who was the catalyst in their marriage breakdown.
“A year ago today you hit send on an email that had a monumental effect on several people’s lives,” Carlie writes in a letter published on Australian website MamaMia.com.au.
“Mine, my husband’s, my daughter’s, both our parents and families, our friends. I often wonder what was going through your mind at that moment, how much of it was revenge against a man who broke your heart and how much of it was you trying to do the right thing for his wife. The level of detail that you went into, felt like it had been curated to inflict pain. You knew what a wife would need to hear to get her to the point of no return in her marriage and you delivered it, blow by blow.
“I wonder how much you knew about me. I know that you looked me up online, read my blog, saw my pictures. I wonder whether you knew that I’d be at work that day when I received your email, cryptically entitled ‘Your husband’. Yes, that’s what he was, and technically still is at this point, my husband. I wonder whether you refer to him as your ex-boyfriend now. It’s so bizarre for me to think that this man I know so intimately had this significant other person in his life that I didn’t know about.
“Sometimes I wonder how much of it was him trying to find what he had lost in me. I was once a cute blonde in a short skirt behind the bar at his favourite pub. Ten years later I was the mum in the yoga pants with the silver regrowth and bags under her eyes from being up all night with a sick baby. He was supposed to love that version of me too. And he did, but he missed the girl who had nothing but time to dote on him. That’s what you gave him,” she wrote.
Although Carlie attempted to fix the crack in her marriage in counselling throughout the year, the pair were unable to make things work in the wake of the affair. Carlie said, by sending the email, the woman chose to destroy her husband’s family.
“Just like the old cliché, you believed he would leave me for you. But he didn’t. He let you down. Our daughter got older, stopped nursing and started sleeping. He began to see the woman he had fallen in love with all those years ago. He wanted to make it work with his wife, with his family. I bet that hurt for you. You had a choice. You could let him move on and try to make his marriage work, or you could take it all from him. You chose option two.
“We tried hard to put the pieces back together but it just didn’t work. I was different. It was the little details that did it. Those words and images etched into my mind. I think you knew that they would. We are both ok now though, me and him,” she said.
The blogger revealed that she does not hold any grudges towards the woman and instead said that she hopes she found peace within herself.
"I hope you have moved on with your life too. I hope that you have learned from this situation and that you can find some peace within yourself, as I have," she wrote.