7 tips to making granny daycare work
"Don't take liberties," Joanna Fortune from Solamh Parent and Child Relationship Clinic warns parents. "If you are due to pick up your children after work, do this and don't squeeze a gym work-out in on your way first. Things like this will lead to grandparents feeling like they're being taken advantage of."
Have an open and frank discussion about hours and what is and isn't expected. For example, will grandparents host playdates, do homework, provide meals?
Be aware that it might be difficult seeing your parent be a much better grandparent to your child than you feel they were when you were a child.
"I always say that the quickest way to find unresolved issues from your own childhood is to become a parent yourself," says Joanna.
"Be aware of your relationship issues with your parents before you ask them to care for your children."
You need to show you value the service provided and payment may be worth discussing, but as Joanna warns: "Some grandparents may be insulted to be paid, in which case gifting grocery vouchers, restaurant vouchers, flowers and so on might be a nice way to show your appreciation."
Regularly sit down and review whether the arrangement is still working for all parties. Make sure you're working collaboratively with routines and not sending the child mixed messages.
"The main problems that arise are from conflicting parenting methods, not adhering to mum's dietary guidelines, sleep routines or excessive spoiling of their children," says Laura Haugh from mummypages.ie.
If it doesn't suit you to mind your grandchildren, speak up. It's better to have an awkward discussion at the start than an explosive argument down the line.