Daughters-in-law to blame for family rifts between sons and their mothers, research reveals
Published 11/12/2015 | 12:21
The majority of family rifts are caused by a bad relationship between mothers and their daughter-in-laws new research has revealed.
According new research conducted at Cambridge University, tension between parents and their son’s wife is the most common cause for families falling out and 37pc of those surveyed cited this as a reason for their rift.
The study found that parents are more likely to lose contact with their sons than their daughters after they get married, and clash more often with the partners of their sons rather than the partners of their daughters.
Researchers Dr Lucy Blake and Professor Susan Colombok of Cambridge’s Centre for Family Research also found that arguments last longer between sons and their parents when compared to those between parents and their daughters.
The study also found that children are more likely to end contact with their parents rather than the other way around.
Christmas proved to be a particularly common time for family woes and many of those estranged from their families feel they are most lonely at Christmas time.
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The study, which compromised of more than 800 people, were surveyed about their family situation and the effect it has on their personality.
Within the survey, one of the participants wrote in more detail about the deterioration of her relationship with her son.
“My son and I had a very strong loving relationship for 25 years.
“He met his soon‐to‐be wife and our relationship and his relationships with everyone on his side slowly went away.
“Everyone that knew him including friends and family saw this and felt this. He disowned anyone that does not like his now wife.
“My relationship with him was the last one.”