Relatives of Hawes ask mourners to give to suicide charity
Published 02/09/2016 | 02:30
The extended family of the tragic murder-suicide Hawe family have told mourners not to send flowers and instead donate to the country's largest suicide charity.
School teacher Alan Hawe killed his wife Clodagh and their three sons at their family home just outside Ballyjamesduff, Cavan, before taking his own life.
Ahead of the Hawes' funeral tomorrow, the extended family have appealed for any donations to be given to the suicide charity Pieta House.
Mourners have been advised that a donation box will be available at St Mary's Church in Castlerahan during the funeral Mass at 4pm tomorrow. Donations can also be made with Finnegan funeral directors.
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The church where the funeral will take place is just across the road from where Alan was vice-principal. His sons Niall and Ryan were also pupils.
It is expected that all five family members will be laid to rest together in the Castlerahan cemetery. Relatives made the decision as they do not wish to "demonise" Alan, according to a close family friend.
"Whatever happened to Alan, the Alan we knew was a kind, caring father and we won't let that slip away now," he said.
"People will see that over the next few days and at the funeral on Saturday. Alan was loved by the family and they will show that."
Warm tributes have been expressed to the Hawes after an online book of condolences was opened by Finnegan funeral directors. A note from a 'Ballyjamesduff mother' emotionally reads: "Let the tears flow, feel the pain and if possible let some happy memories etch through in what is an immense tragedy and loss of young lives... truly heartbreaking."
Another Cavan mother simply penned "there are no words to comfort", while a Galway mourner believed there wasn't "any words to ease your heartache".
Gardaí have finished their examination at the Hawes' family home at Oakdene, where the five bodies where found at 10.45am on Monday.
Flowers from the Ballyjamesduff garda station nestled among numerous floral tributes and candles lit by villagers.
- Anyone affected by this article can contact the Samaritans on 116123.