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'I forgive the driver' - says mother who lost her entire family in suicide crash

Laura Lynott

Published 18/11/2016 | 02:30

Elber Twomey
Elber Twomey

A mother who lost her entire family in the aftermath of a devastating crash caused by a suicidal driver said "I forgive him" as she begged others to seek help.

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In an emotional interview, grieving mother Elber Twomey wept as she remembered her beloved baby son Oisín, only 16-months-old, and her unborn baby daughter, who both died in the July 6, 2012, crash.

Her husband Con (39) died 10 months later after suffering serious injuries in the collision in Devon in England.

Ms Twomey, who was attending a memorial to road victims in Dublin, said: "I forgive the driver because for want of a better word, he wasn't in his sane mind - he was ill and I honestly don't believe he meant to harm my family. He was a father himself.

"Maybe he intended to hurt himself, but I don't believe he did anyone else. I wouldn't be able to get out of bed or drive, or carry on with my life if I hadn't forgiven him."

She spent time speaking to other family members who'd lost loved-ones on the roads at the event ahead of World Day of Remembrance for the Victims of Road Collisions on Sunday.

Ms Twomey from Meelin, north Cork, has not only encouraged gardaí to handle potentially suicidal drivers with extreme care, but also raised vast sums for suicide charities.

"If the police are trained in suicidal awareness, hopefully lives will be saved," she said.

At the launch of ‘World Day of Remembrance for Road Traffic Victims 2016’ at Smock Alley
Theatre, Dublin was Paula Cody, who lost her son Dayne Photo: Gareth Chaney/Collins
At the launch of ‘World Day of Remembrance for Road Traffic Victims 2016’ at Smock Alley Theatre, Dublin was Paula Cody, who lost her son Dayne Photo: Gareth Chaney/Collins

"I ask anyone who feels suicidal or depressed to please just talk to someone, be it a friend, family member, or a stranger."

Separately, grieving mother Paula Cody (33), from Ballyfermot in Dublin, spoke of the loss of her eldest son Dayne Cody (15) in a horror crash two years ago.

His friend had bought a car on donedeal.ie for €400 before the crash. Her son was buried on Christmas Eve.

"It's still very raw, especially coming up to the festive period. Christmas will never be the same."

Christy Moore also sang a moving song for a woman who lost her daughter on the roads.

He paid tribute to the families, and said: "I wish you all the very best as you cope with your trouble and that you will help each other through your terrible losses."

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