'I forgive him for preying on me' - Darci Day says she is healing following her ordeal at the hands of Graham Dwyer
Published 22/12/2015 | 08:31
A woman who almost let convicted murderer Graham Dwyer "end her life" at a time when she was experiencing suicidal thoughts has said she has forgiven him.
Darci Day from Maine in the US met Dwyer (42) on a fetish website in 2010.
Dwyer told the American woman that he wanted to have sex with her and then cut her throat.
They communicated for two years but never met in person.
Ms Day testified against Dwyer via video link during his 10-week trial for the murder of Elaine O'Hara (36) at Dublin's Central Criminal Court earlier this year.
"I'm praying for him," she told The Irish Daily Star today.
"I forgive him for preying on me.
"Forgiveness does not mean you are accepting what a person has done to you or are condoning it.
"Forgiveness is a way of healing and moving on, not letting your anger towards someone define you or bring you down" she told the Irish Daily Star.
However the young woman said she is finding it difficult to forgive Dwyer for "what he did to Elaine".
"I am working on trying to forgive myself as well, this has been something that I have struggled with," she said.
Ms Day came to the attention of gardai when they found a document on Dwyer's hard drive entitled 'Killing Darci'.
Investigating officers also found a photoshopped picture of Ms Day with her throat cut.
However her evidence was initially deemed inadmissible until the trial judge was made aware that the accused, Dwyer, had sent her a Christmas card from prison last December.
"He has not contacted me since then and I'm praying very hard for him and all the families involved.
"At this point I couldn't ever bring myself to talk to him but I pray that God will change his heart," she said.
The American woman said that the murder trial made her realise how precious life is.
Ms Day is a Christian who works to assist those suffering from depression and suicidal thoughts.
Dywer was convicted of the murder of Ms O'Hara and sentenced to life in prision.